Enneagram Parenting Styles: How Your Type Affects Your Kids

Introduction

Parenting is the ultimate stress test, so it naturally brings out our Enneagram patterns. Recognizing these can help us raise more resilient children.

Common Parenting Traps

• Type 1 Parents: May be too critical, teaching kids that they are only loved when they are "perfect."
• Type 2 Parents: May be over-involved, teaching kids that they can't survive without help.
• Type 3 Parents: May value achievement over connection, teaching kids that love is earned through success.
• Type 6 Parents: May be overly anxious, teaching kids that the world is a dangerous place.
• Type 8 Parents: May be too controlling, teaching kids that vulnerability is weakness.

The Goal: Conscious Parenting

The goal isn't to change your personality but to catch yourself when you are projecting your fears onto your children. A Type 6 parent can learn to say, "I am feeling anxious, but that doesn't mean you aren't safe."