Conflict Styles by Personality Pattern: Avoiders, Fighters, Peacemakers

Introduction

Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional. Your personality type largely dictates your default reaction to stress and disagreement.

The Three Main Styles

1. The Avoider (Flight/Freeze)

Often Type 9s, Introverts, or Agreeable types. They hate tension and will withdraw or agree just to stop the fight.

• Risk: Issues never get resolved and resentment builds silently.
• Growth: Learning that conflict can be safe and productive.

2. The Fighter (Fight)

Often Type 8s, ENTJs, or low Agreeableness types. They view conflict as a problem to be solved aggressively. They can be loud and direct.

• Risk: Overwhelming their partner and damaging the emotional bond.
• Growth: Learning to soften the delivery and listen.

3. The Peacemaker (Fawn)

Often Type 2s or high Agreeableness types. They immediately try to fix the other person's feelings, often at the expense of their own truth.

• Risk: Losing themselves in the relationship.
• Growth: Learning to tolerate others' discomfort.