Communication Styles Across Personality Tendencies

Introduction

Have you ever felt like you and your coworker are speaking different languages? In the 16-type system, you probably are. Understanding communication styles can bridge the gap.

Abstract vs. Concrete Communicators

• Intuitives (N) speak "Abstract": They talk in metaphors, theories, and "big picture" concepts. They jump from idea to idea.
• Sensors (S) speak "Concrete": They talk in facts, details, and linear steps. They want the "who, what, where, when."

The Fix: If you're an N talking to an S, give concrete examples. If you're an S talking to an N, start with the main point before the details.

Direct vs. Informing Communicators

• Direct (Te/Fe types): "Close the window." They give commands or clear requests.
• Informing (Ti/Fi types): "It's getting cold in here." They provide information and hope you take the hint.

The Fix: Direct types need to soften their tone. Informing types need to be more explicit about what they want.